This is something I really struggle with, and I’m pretty sure I’m not alone. When people close to me are having issues it really sets me off mentally, if my other half is in a mood, I feel anxious and worried for him. If my mum is upset and stressed, I feel upset and emotional too. If my best friend doesn’t feel well, I’ll get sympathy sickness!
Why do I take on everyone’s feelings? I think it’s because I care. I’m a worrier and get over involved emotionally, I find it very hard to take a step back when I really care about someone. I can never just think ‘oh I’m sure it’ll be fine they’ll be ok’ instead my emotions start, and when they do there’s no end until the other person is ok.
It’s draining and frustrating I can’t seem to switch it off. For example this morning my other half was in a really bad mood, he had a bad evening and he was still grumpy and agitated this morning. I woke up before him, tiered but in a good mood. As soon as he got up and I realised he was still moody my tummy instantly has knots. It makes me feel worried and I can’t stand seeing him sad. Later on this afternoon he had some good news which cheered him up, which then meant I naturally cheered up.
Does anyone have some tips or mantras I can use to help with this issue?!
I’d love to hear in the comments below if you have a similar issue or any advice.
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